For Couples
Our relationships, particularly romantic ones, impact everything. They have the incredible capacity to create both joy and turmoil. They are often the centre of our day to day lives and how they are going effects most areas.
Many couples arrive in therapy feeling stuck, upset, dejected, distant, and misunderstood. They describe going around in painful cycles; at a loss of how to change these. Many have sought help before and felt it had only helped them to a point.
At Experience Connection we want to understand the very heart of your troubles and help you address them in the deepest, most lasting ways.
How We Are
Different
Mainstream Couples counselling can often focus on the symptoms, attempt to provide limited strategies and quickly become stuck, alongside the couple.
The content of what people disagree on is important, and there is always space to explore this. However, it is often not as important as the way in which those things are discussed.
We pay particular attention to the styles of communication, the patterns and themes of reactivity and distance you each play out. We help you to know each other within these and beyond them.
With understanding, clarity and insight, it is possible to deal with your problems differently, eventually finding lasting resolve.
Find a Settled Place
At Experience Connection we want to firstly help you to see these cycles clearly and to understand what is driving them for each of you.
There are very clear patterns to the ways in which people and couples interact; the dance that they do to express their upset have their needs met. This is often a misrepresentation to deeper more vulnerable experiences that, if accessed, understood and expressed, make their loved ones and others much more susceptible to coming towards them and supporting them. Each individual within the couple has their own personal version of this, we help you to see them separately, understanding each others and how they interact together.
We create the safe space to begin discovering, exploring and expressing underlying feelings and needs in more effective ways, away from reactive cycles.
The experiential element of our work is an ongoing invitation, with facilitation, to attempt these new patterns of communicating within the sessions. We support you to do so until they become more natural and eventually ingrained, experiencing new kinds of connection with a clear road map of how to sustain this.
How We can Help
We want to support you back to a stronger bond and re-create the sense of team for you that may have been missing.
This all happens within a process and does require commitment from each partner in attempting the work. We would build trust with each of you and guide you at a pace that is best suited to where you are.
We work with marital problems, new family changes, betrayals, infidelities, sexual problems, addictions, separation, divorce and general relationship difficulties.
